Live with no regrets.
If you were to die tomorrow, what would you regret not having done? How can you live your life today ( and every day) so that you will have no regrets?
* Be gentle with yourself.
If you find yourself slipping back into old patterns, congratulate yourself for recognizing that! Then reclaim your will and move on.
When you let someone else make choices for you, you are giving up POWER to make yourself happy.