Sep
22
2009
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Learn to let go - one more step

We can’t prevent stress altogether, but with practice, we can moderate or change our reaction to stress so that once-tense situations are far less stressful or no longer stressful at all. 
 
Recognize the emotional and physical clues that plague you when under stress: tight upper back, diarrhea or heartburn, craving for carbohydrates, skin
problems, forgetfulness, mental fuzziness, bumping into things.
When you get the distress signal - whatever it is - don’t ignore it.
 
What’s bothering you? An upcoming event? A family problem? A potential layoff at work?
Is there something you can
do about it?
 
Identify some possible solutions. Then work a plan. Get whatever help you need and then take actions.
 
You may not be able to control what is causing you stress, but you can change your reaction to it.
Look for whatever humor may be present. Has a “comedy of errors” led you to your present circumstances?
Imagine that you are a stand-up comedian explaining your situation or predicament.

      

Tell You Story

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Sep
21
2009
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Let go - one more step

 
Spend time with people who make you laugh. When choosing which movie to see, choose comedies over tragedies. Read comic strips in your magazines.
 
Research shows that people who have family and friends to help them through stressful times stay healthier and recover faster than those who do not have social support system.
 
Slow down. Focus on the quality of your life instead of doing more and getting ahead.
 
Find a creative outlet. Draw or paint. Make a birthday card with pictures and letters cut out from magazines. Grow a garden. Write a poem or a letter - to someone else, or perhaps to yourself. 

       

 

         Tell you Story

 
I lived in Costa Rica for five years.
During those years I  must say, even though Costa Rica appeared like a dream land to me and my partner Jack, it ended up being stressful and unfriendly place for us.
 
We both came to Costa Rica to create our Dream Projects.
Jack, who was a producer for CBC radio for over 25 years, said that he wanted to create something that would last more then an hour. That would be a book.
 
I wanted to create, and run a Center for Body and Soul Rejuvenation called “Not Just Another Hotel”
 
Ha!!!! It cost us all of the money invested in this project scummed away from us in a first year. And then to agonize  for other four years, during which we fought for getting a justice system of Costa Rica to help us out. It was not going to happen.
 
To keep my sanity, I did many things. I created appearance projects, created lovely gardens.  One of my projects was to write my Story named “I Never Met My Mother.”
 
If you want to know the truth about who really helped me to be disciplined in getting this story written? It was Fritz, my little three year old beautiful silver grey Schnauzer.
 
“How was that possible? The dog helps you out to write a book?” One may ask.
 
“Yes! Absolutely!”
 
Here is how.
 
My office was facing our huge fruit garden full of Passion fruit trees, Mango and Orange trees, Lemon trees, and so on. At the end we had a white wooden logged fence.
I would get up at five in the morning, as soon as the sun  come out, make myself cup of coffee, pick an ashtray, (yes, I smocked,) and walk in Jack’s office where I’d have an access to his computer while Jack would sleep till eleven. He was the night person, and I was the morning person.
 
Fritz would be outside, chasing birds,
or visiting with one of his friends, our cat named Squeeze. Squeeze had a sister-cat named Release. She was not a friendly cat. In the contrary, she was a big show off cat. She was very athletic. She demonstrated her talents by getting up the tallest tree, while Squeeze would fall down by attempting to get up there.
Anyway, Squeeze ended up being adapted by Fritz who was simply put, a sweetheart. Many times, we thought that Squeeze thought that he was a dog, not a cat. Release couldn’t stand him for that.
Fritz and Squeeze ganged up against her, which was hurtful to watch.
 
Also Fritz had couple of young, not even a year old pappies, tall “Blondes” from a next house, who came running every morning, as soon as Fritz showed up outside.
They both would dance, jump and gallop around Fritz who was only little miniature Schnauzer.
He would just sit and watch them. It was really a fun scene. To me, it looked like they were doing everything to win his attention.
From time to time Fritz would look at the office window. And, as he looked at me, I felt like he was saying: “What you’re doing, looking, not writing?”
“Yes!” I thought to myself,” he is right, “I better go back to writing.” and I’d go back to it for a little while.
 
At around six or six thirty Fritz would turn around and walk away from those two, and come to my office, lay near my feet, and go back to sleep.
I’d go back to my writing.
 
At about nine, he would wake up, and leave the room, so would I.
This continued  every morning for long, long time.
I owe to my little Fritz a lot. In fact I will thank him for helping me to write my book.
One day this book will be published.
 
 
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Sep
18
2009
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Letting go - next step

Now that you know how to unclutter your home:
your office, your kitchen, your bedroom closets and so on…
 
What’s the next step?
 
Let see.
 
Do you answer your phone every time it rings?
Think about how much of a distraction it causes you.
 
Why do you have to answer all your calls?
Don’t you have a voice message?
Stephen Covet in his Audio “7 Habits of highly effective Network Marketing Professionals” 
talks about two different meanings
for “important’ and “urgent”
 
What’s the difference?
Example:

 

Phone rings and the person wants you to answer their question.
It’s urgent to them.
But is it important to you?
Sometime people ask you questions they already know the answers. Let then take responsibility to take action without you jumping to answer every question they have.
They can also e-mail their question.
What’s important to you?

 

To continue focusing on your task at hand.
Solution: Turn off the ringer.
Let the messages collect. Finish your important task.
 
Bill Mayer, author of “Magic in Asking The Right Questions” talks about “Block and Focus”
 
Jack Canfield and his co-authors in the Book “Power of Focus”  are  suggesting to write a note
“BLOCK and FOCUS” and keep it in front of you.
They give many examples how professionals became more effective and productive when they
got in this habit “Block and Focus”
 
               Tell you Story
 
I, personally, struggle a lot with this .
And sure, I can blame my most unfortunate childhood.
I’ve  known myself for disability to focus on things that are not of my interest, especially.
And then again, I know when I am interested in something, I go ahead and do it, no matter what.
 
It took me years to realize that no one can ever be anything if they are not learning to do things that of essence. Those things need to be done first, before you can do other things, which you like.
That’s the truth and the reality.
 
One day, I was thinking that I should change the way I do things.
 
Ok. Let me give you an example:
I love cooking. I love hosting dinners for groups of people.
 
It takes no time for me to make a menu, no time to shop. I do it quickly, efficiently, not a big deal.
When my guests arrive, I feel like a guest myself. I don’t run around. Everything is so well organized,
and done with ease.
Why is that? Because this is my passion, my love.
 
Exercise?! No! It’s a struggle.
Used to be very athletic till about
fourteen, and then when I left my father’s home at that age, any sports became non-existent for me.
I needed to earn my own living and still continue school.
Since then, years gone by without exercising.
Well, what’s my solution?
I got to do it, weather I like it or not!!!
I decided to live in a condo with a
gym. My Gym Room windows overlooking beautiful Cinema Theatre.
 I get up, and my first thing is walk to the second floor to my gym.
 
The latest invention, I-pod saved me.
I now am falling in love with exercising because I listen to all recorded conference calls while I do.
I am now caught up with all of what’s available. I Sync new information every day. I load other
coaching audio on my I-pod.
 
I love my Exercise time!!!
I don’t miss a day!
 
 
and print out our newly released
cookbook “110 Ways To Eat Well”
 

 

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Sep
17
2009
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Let go step at a time, starting now.

 
Do not try to unclutter your whole home all at once. Work in one room at a time and don’t switch to another room until you’re done.
Seeing progress will motivate you to keep up the good work.
 
Clean out one drawer every night.
 
Plan uncluttering activities around garbage days or plan to take stuff to the dump or your selected charity that day.
Otherwise you be tempted to reconsider.
 
Start unclutter with easy stuff. throw out anything that is already garbage:
Expired medicine and coupons.
Outdated clothes and odd socks.
Makeup and sunscreen that’s more than one year old.
Things that are broken.
Grocery bags (10 is plenty).
Old restaurant and shopping guides.
Outdated calendars.
Spoiled food.
Rusted utensils and tools.
Travel literature and maps.
Refrigerator items past their “use by” date.
Remember, holding on broken things
is not good. Even if they represent
important memories.
 
        Tell You Story
A day before we departed from Russia in 1974 my stepmother walked in our
 almost apartment with her best crystal vase wrapped in a crispy clean white shit.
As she handed it over to me, she said:
“This is my treasure, and i want it to be yours. Please keep it for all your life.”
We both cried.
 
I had hold this vase in my hands during the flight. I didn’t let of my hands all the way until we entered our hotel room in Vienna.
Next morning when I woke up and opened it up, i saw that the vase was broken. It broke in two halves, perfect two halves.
 
“It has to be fixed, no matter what!”
 
Walking in the streets of Vienna, I kept looking for fine china antique stores.
Finally I find the man who agreed to glue it for me.
“Come back in a week!” he said.
I didn’t know how many days we vere going to stay in Vienna. Somehow,
using my fingers and other words, which were not anything that could be understood, but did understand that I am in Vienna for 3 or 4 days only.
He then agreed for me to come back in forty eight hours.
I got my vase back, and it looked like it was never broken. “That’s it!” I said,
I’ll be even more careful. In week time we were on the train to Rome.
The vase was safely sitting on it’s own tackled in between two soft bags.
It fell in two halves again.
The same thing happened when i arrived to Toronto.
During my first couple of years I kept fixing it, and fixing it.
It would sit perfectly fine on my shelf,
but from time to time it would fall in two halves.
Last time, it was good for a year, and I thought, it was fixed for good.
One day I had a client for haircut in my apartment. When she was done, she looked around my room, and praised me for making it look so lovely.
 
Suddenly, she noticed my beautiful vase, and said,
“Look, why is it in two halves?”
“Oh, no! Not again!” I cried.
 
And I told her the story.
She said, “do you know that keeping cracked things even if they are fixed is not a good luck? You must through it immediately!”
I couldn’t do it. It was the only piece of my step mother’s treasure given to me to keep it for the rest of my life!
The woman saw hesitation in my eyes, and took charge.
She said: “Come on, let’s do it together right now. It will free you from so many bad things that are happening in your life because of this vase. Come, let’s go to the garbage shut.”
She took the vase from my shelf before I could say anything, and marched to the garbage. She then gave the vase back to me and asked me to hold it for a second, and then let go with ease.
My heart was beating fast, and then I made the shift. I said to myself that it’s a good thing. I said that I would keep my step mother memories, not the vase. It’s “the thing,”
I took a deep breath, and smiled with ease while letting it go.
That was that.
Suddenly, I felt free. Almost immediately after that I started to notice good changes in my life.
Since that I never hold anything that is cracked or even slightly chipped in my home.

 
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Sep
16
2009
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Letting go, one step at a time

    

How much is enough? Do you really need 23 pairs of shoes?

Or seven sets of sheets for your bed?
Or that handy-dandy gadget you just saw advertised on television?
 
How many things that you have bought are still in your home but not being used?
 
Acquiring things has become such a habit that we often don’t consider the cost of acquisition.
 
Material possessions cost you storage space, and they cost you the time it takes to shop and care for them.
The more you own, the more you have to take care for. 

 
           Tell you Story
 
Before leaving Moscow, former Soviet
Union we had do dispose all of our possessions. All of it. Soviet authorities
gave us small list of things that we could bring through the border.
 
Selling good things for little money at that time wasn’t the case. Shortage of everything in stores make people want to buy used things as long as they were the thing they desired to poses, and couldn’t get in stores.
So we gathered some money for those.
On the other hand there were many friends that I won’t sell. I was packing gifts for them. I thought, at least they would have some kind of memorabilia from  us.

 

When everything was gone, all we had left was  6 suitcases of personnel possessions and 4 out of that were souvenirs.
We were allowed to bring no money accept $50 US per person. That’s all.
 
That letting go was the first step we needed to go through.
It was only material and physical things.

 

What about the rest???
 
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