Mar
31
2010
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Rules for Dreamers

 

 Great dreams…never even get out of the box. It takes uncommon amount of gifts to put your dreams on the line, to hold them up an say, “Let’s see how good I am!” That’s where the courage comes in.

-Erma Bombeck, humorist and writer (1927-1996)
 
Rules:
 
1.Realize that nothing happens right away. Stay with your dream and live close to your beliefs.
 
2. Dreams usually don’t come about in the way that you first visualize them, so, don’t expect them to. Be open to new opportunities and ideas. Reality is too complicated, and surprise is half the fun!
 
3.The only constant are your values. Keep compromise to a minimum on these even when they come disguised in nice names like team building, negotiation, or consensus.
 
4. Seek cooperation in your dream. Dreams rearely survive their origins without evolution to a broader ownership. Get your ideas out in the universe and see who they inspire.
 
5. Be as flexible about implementation of your dream as you are uncompromising on the values of your vision. Avoid tight planning, and don’t let your plan become an end in itself.
 
6.Money is never main ingredient of dream achievement. Free yourself from major money needs insofar as it is reasonable and possible. The ‘if I only had money” mind-set can result in neglect of other potentially more feasible approaches.
 
7. When you get the blues-and dreamers do-don’t look forward; look backward. Looking backward reminds you how many dreams have actually come true in your life, while looking forward only reminds you of the obstacles you face.
 

 

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Mar
30
2010
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Resilience is Something You Do, Not Have

 

    * There is no timeline, no set period, for finding strength to overcome. Even one-third of poor, neglected, and abused children are capably building better lives by the time they are teenagers.
 
 * Faith, be it in the future or in a higher power, is an essential ingredient in  becoming resilient.
 
 *Most resilient people don’t do it alone. In fact, they don’t even try. People who cope well with adversity are able to ask for help.
 
 *Setting goals and planning for the future are strong factors in overcoming adversity and doubt. A belief in oneself and the ability to recognize one’s strengths is important.
 
Resilience - is something you do, not have.
Taking steps, and asking for help, is how you
going to take back your power.

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Mar
29
2010
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Learning to Manage Mistakes

 

Champions keep playing until they get it right.
-Billie Jean King, Wimbledon tennis champ (1943- )
 
1. How can you develop a scientific mind-set toward mistakes, to see them as “stepping-stones to success” rather then things to avoid or be ashamed of? Think about this question and then write your in your journal.
 
2. Make a list of three of your “best mistakes” in your journal. What are three things that went wrong, that you regretted doing or not doing, or that didn’t turn out the way you wanted them to?
3. What did you learn from those mistakes? How are you actually better off now because of the valuable lessons you learned?
4. Finish this sentence: “From now on when I make a mistake,
I am going to__________________________.”
5. There is an important rule for this exercise: you must promise yourself that you will not get depressed over your mistakes and wallow in sorrow. Look at your mistakes for clues and insights that will allow you to move forward, not backward.
 
 
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Mar
26
2010
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Make Appointment with Yourself

 
I think you have to take change of your own life and understand that you’re either going to live somebody else’s dream or live your own dream.
 
-Wilma Mankiller, Cherokee Nation first female chief
 
How often do you make an appointments to yourself, only to bail out on them when someone asks something of you?
Most of us almost always show up for others, but rarely show up for yourself.
We are conditioned to put others’ needs above our own that it seems only natural to excuse our choices with, “My friend needed me;I didn’t want to let him/her down,” or “I feel guilty if I say ‘no’”
or I didn’t want to hurt his/her feelings.”
After all we rationalize, we can take care of our own needs later. Isn’t it better to say “yes” to people who need us - even if it means saying “no” to ourselves? Isn’t self-sacrifice a virtue after all?
One of the most empowering things I learned…
it took me many years of this “sacrifice”…
I started making an appointment with myself.
 
I invite myself for special dinner with me.
I do this once a month. I plan it. I know what i want to wear, what I will have for dinner, what music I want, what table setting I will have, what candles… I don’t have this chatter filled
talk with myself. I simply treat myself to very elegant evening where everything is done by me for me…. It makes me feel the very special that I am for me.
And another time I decide not to answer the phone for  read the e-mails for six hours. I make this appointment with me to reflect, and write my own story of interest.
Scheduling regular appointments with myself is a very simple, powerful way of putting myself first-where I belong.
          
Advice.
Decide when you will have an appointment with yourself. Put that date in your schedule, and make sure that you show up for it.
Please understand the distinct difference between taking a regular brake when you are tired, and having a special appointment with yourself. Big Difference.
By doing this you will increase your self-respect,
it will empower you.
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Mar
24
2010
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Deserving Your Good

 

 Do you believe that you deserve to have your desire? If you don’t you won’t allow yourself to have it. 

Circumstances beyond your control will crop up to frustrate you. 

Exercise: I Deserve to have or be_____________________________________
 
and I accept it now.” Say it two or three times .
How do you feel? Always pay attention to your feelings, to what is going on in your body. Does it feel true, or do you still feel unworthy?
If you have negative feelings in your body, then go back to affirming, “I release the pattern in my consciousness that is creating resistance to my good.” “I deserve_________________________.”
      Repeat this until you get the acceptance feeling, even if you have to do it several days in a raw. 

 

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