Apr
29
2010
29
2010
Find Your Center
There’s a whole other world out there that is moving at the same pace today as it did thousands of years ago. The sun rises each morning with precision and certainty, and set each evening the same way. When was the last time you watched the sun set or rise?
Tune in to the sounds of nature. There’s something reassuring and soothing about nature’s rhythms.
Join a bicycling or hiking club and participate in regular outings.
Take nourishment from the sun.
Just 10 to 15 minutes of direct sun exposure to your face, arms, and hands three times a week stimulates your body to produce all the vitamin D you need.
Apr
28
2010
28
2010
Changes? How do I …make them?
Here is some of stages that successful self-changers go through:
Pre-contemplation -You’re not aware of the need for change. You’re obvious to your problem. Perhaps in denial.
Contemplation - The light bulb goes on and you realize that something’s wrong and you need, or want, to change. You start thinking about changing yourself. Perhaps you discuss it with others.
Preparation - You start to talk openly about the change you want to make. You do some research and think about various options and approaches to bringing about the desired change in yourself. You make a decision or commitment to change.
Action - You get your rear in gear and start doing something to bring about the change you seek.
Maintenance - You’ve made the change in yourself and now your task is to keep it up over the long haul.
Termination - The new behavior is so firmly established that you don’t need to think or do much about it anymore. (At this point you may start the process all over again with another aspect of yourself you’d like to change.)
Apr
27
2010
27
2010
Don’t go to dry well for water. Seek out the right people to support you in caring for yourself.
It’s disappointing to learn that some people in our lives are dry wells. It’s even more painful to realize that those we want the most to be there for us - family members such as spouses, parents, brothers, sisters - may be unavailable for what we need. But it’s important to recognize the truth about these people so we can stop going to them for what they cannot give. It’s foolish going back to a dry well for water.
I spent many years years to heal the difficult relationships with my father and my two sisters.
Even when I left home at fourteen, and went on my own. Everything I did accomplish since then, I had this thought in my head, “Oh! If he only knew how well I did at work and at my night school! He would be proud of me. One day, I had bad accident at work. The machine I was given was unsafe to operate, and top part, which weight was 500 pounds was blown off from the pressure. It hit me, and I fell in the tiled floor. My scull was cracked, and I was in surgery, and then in ICU for a while, when finally
in a hospital bed, semi-conscious. My family was notified at one point, and one day my father walked in. He sat down on my bed, and started to talk about all the arguments that he had with my step-mother.
That was the moment when I said….”poor man, he is so self absorbed that he has nothing to give to me
I made that decision… if I want a pat on the back, I have to be first, the well full of fresh water, and attract people to my life who have the same well.
Who are the dry wells in your life? Have those names on a piece of paper, and burn it.
After that make a list of people who are available to you when you need. Read those names, put the list on your wallet, and everytime you’re in need of cool refreshing water of love and support, refer to them.
Apr
26
2010
26
2010
Stick with Winners, Ask for Help!
Winners Never Quit, Quiters Never Win.
No one lives long enough to learn everything they need to learn from scratch. To be successful, we absolutely, positively have to find people who have already paid the price to learn the things that we need to learn to achieve our goals.
Brian Tracy, author of Eat That Frog!
We humans are profoundly social creatures. And like other social creatures - monkeys, elephants, lions, dogs, parrots, and many more - we were designed to live with relationships with others.
We do best when we have loving family, village, town, team and other groups in which to live and work. We thrive in community - if we isolate, we do so at our own peril.
Decide who you want to attract to your life who
you respect, who is open to share without holding back, who walk their talk, who are too, willing to grow no matter what stage of their lives they are at. By helping you, they feel good. They feel that they pay forward, they give back. Are you willing to learn by asking for help from those?