Jul
23
2010
0

Everybody screws up, once in a while.

 

(continuation from “Things Leaders Must Do.”

(For New Readers. You can read archived T.O.T.D. in www.inevermetmymother.com)

 

People who learn from failure are motivated to do better. Self confidence does not come from seeing oneself as strong without flaws, or above making mistakes. Self-confidence and belief in yourself come from accepting flaws and mistakes and realizing that you can go forward and grow past them, that you can learn from them.
 
Leaders are not derailed by their own failures, they accept them as a normal part of the process.
 
Leaders show kindness, understanding, and help the others who fail.
 
Dr. Henry Cloud

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Jul
22
2010
2

Don’lt Play Fair, Play Right

 

continuation from “Things Leaders Must Do.”

(For New Readers. You can read archived T.O.T.D. in www.inevermetmymother.com)

 

 Leaders have transcended the need for revenge.
Their first goal is to make things better for the other person or group.
The other’s benefit is their utmost concern. That does not mean they have no interest in their own benefits. It simply means that in their treatment of others, their goal is to do well by them regardless of how they are treated. They don’t play fair; they play right,
 
Revenge is for immature people. Mature leaders know that ultimately the offending person is going to get what he deserves without anyone else bringing it about. God and the universe have a way of making it happen, as does the natural law of sowing and reaping. But even this ultimate payback is not something leaders wish on another person, and that is the hallmark of their character. They truly want the best for others, even those who do not do well by them.
 
Dr. Henry Cloud

 

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Jul
21
2010
0

Forget About Playing Fair

 

(continuation from “Things Leaders Must Do.”

(For New Readers. You can read archived T.O.T.D. in www.inevermetmymother.com)

 
People who succeed in leadership and life do not go around settling scores. They do not even keep score.
 
 
So, let’s look how leaders make this principal work.  
 
Give the opposite.

 

If someone tries to control you, do not control back. Give freedom instead. Give choices. If someone is perfectionist or critical, do not criticize him/her for being critical. Don’t agree with it; just accept it. Do not feel bad, destructive things, but instead sow exactly the opposite. Do not let another person get away with hurting you, but avoid sowing more bad behavior into the relationship. That is self-defeating.
 
….to be continued  tomorrow

 

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Jul
20
2010
0

Forget About Playing Fair.

 

(continuation from “Things Leaders Must Do.”)

For New Readers. You can read archived T.O.T.D. in www.inevermetmymother.com

 
People who succeed in leadership and life do not go around settling scores. They do not even keep score.
 
 
So, let’s look how leaders make this principal work. 
 
Ask how you have contributed.
 
Few things loosen gridlock in a relationship like asking the other person how you have hurt him/her or contributed to the problem. We cannot require maturity from other person until we are being mature from our side.
Going to him/her and showing that we care how our behavior affects him/her is a step in the right direction. Overcome evil with good.
 
….to be continued  tomorrow.

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Jul
19
2010
3

 

(continuation from “Things Leaders Must Do.”

(For New Readers. You can read archived T.O.T.D. in www.inevermetmymother.com)

 

People who succeed in leadership and life do not go around settling scores. They do not even keep score.
 
 
So, let’s look how leaders make this principal work. 
 
Get rid of anger. When you feel anger at someone who is only giving you what you deserve, there are two wrong ways to respond and one that is better.
First wrong way to respond to to anger is not to feel it, or not allow it to tell you something is wrong. The second wrong way is to use anger to get back at those who wrong you-to put them down, hurt, lash out, shame them, or manipulate them into improving. Neither if these ways can avert the impending dissolution of the relationship, and may indeed hasten it.
The right way is to use your anger to let the other person know there is a problem. Then, go and solve the problem by approaching the person in love, not anger, and facing the issue at hand. Fix problems in a way that treat the other person better then you were treated.

…to be continued tomorrow.

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