If you have a partner who:
. screams at you when you screamed at him/her.
. doesn’t speak with you if you are upset about something, and don’t speak with him/her.
. won’t vacuum the house if you didn’t dust the furniture…
. won’t tell you how much/she appreciates you if you didn’t tell him/her how much you appreciate
him/her…
You got the picture?
They do this because they think: that’s only fair.
Good for good, bad for bad.
But that will destroy every relationship in life, including your relationship with superiors, colleagues, subordinates, customers…and so on.
Playing fair relationships will not work
You do not want to be in partnerships where the attitude is to give each other just what we deserve. That is certainly fair, but if you and I are business
associates, coworkers or personal partners , I want better then fair from you, and so are you.
I do not want to fail and have you get back at me in some way to even up the score.
Leaders give back better than they are given.
(to be continued tomorrow)