I think you have to take change of your own life and understand that you’re either going to live somebody else’s dream or live your own dream.
-Wilma Mankiller, Cherokee Nation first female chief
How often do you make an appointments to yourself, only to bail out on them when someone asks something of you?
Most of us almost always show up for others, but rarely show up for yourself.
We are conditioned to put others’ needs above our own that it seems only natural to excuse our choices with, “My friend needed me;I didn’t want to let him/her down,” or “I feel guilty if I say ‘no’”
or I didn’t want to hurt his/her feelings.”
After all we rationalize, we can take care of our own needs later. Isn’t it better to say “yes” to people who need us - even if it means saying “no” to ourselves? Isn’t self-sacrifice a virtue after all?
One of the most empowering things I learned…
it took me many years of this “sacrifice”…
I started making an appointment with myself.
I invite myself for special dinner with me.
I do this once a month. I plan it. I know what i want to wear, what I will have for dinner, what music I want, what table setting I will have, what candles… I don’t have this chatter filled
talk with myself. I simply treat myself to very elegant evening where everything is done by me for me…. It makes me feel the very special that I am for me.
And another time I decide not to answer the phone for read the e-mails for six hours. I make this appointment with me to reflect, and write my own story of interest.
Scheduling regular appointments with myself is a very simple, powerful way of putting myself first-where I belong.
Advice.
Decide when you will have an appointment with yourself. Put that date in your schedule, and make sure that you show up for it.
Please understand the distinct difference between taking a regular brake when you are tired, and having a special appointment with yourself. Big Difference.
By doing this you will increase your self-respect,
it will empower you.
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